So now what? I must start counting at Day 1. That's what happens sometimes. So this may be my 4th post, but it is back to Day 1. Creating new habits may not be easy, but it will be well worth it. As a coach, I know only too well that it can be difficult to do 21 consecutive days of practice to create a habit. Is it a moment to blast someone for not staying on track? I prefer to get them restarted, as there is nothing productive that is gained by saying aloud what they have been repeating in their head. Instead, I find that reconnecting the heart to the dream is far more productive. It's the dream, the goal, that fires the coals to make the change to a new habit. Let's say I start to make a change in my putting. I find some time in my schedule each day to do the exercises that will take me to having the stroke of my dreams. I get to day three or four on enthusiasm alone. But then, I totally get sidetracked by a few unexpected events, and realize I missed a day. OUCH! I begin to lament the fact that I must begin again (I am not good at doing things over). My self talk, (that voice in my head), is pretty negative - I call myself names, get angry about having to repeat work already done. Sound familiar to anyone?
When coaching others, I must cajole them back to it being OK to start counting from today. And I have learned to be nice to myself too. I was going to keep practicing anyway, so what have I truly lost? Nothing.
As a coach, I may make the same moves my students do, but I have an extra set of viewers, to keep my eyes on the bigger picture and get everyone back on track. What do you do to get back on track?
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